Deborrah Cooper
Deborrah Cooper has penned an advice column on http://www.askheartbeat.com for 15 years, and hosts an Internet radio show on dating and relationships on BlogTalkRadio.Com She's also author of Sucka Free Love! a hilarious guide to modern dating.
Articles by this Author
Rejection - Why It Hurts and What To Do About The Pain
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 11th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Rejection...when it hurts, it hurts like HELL. For most humans, rejection leaves one swimming in a sea of diminished self worth. Society is quick to recognize the physical and emotional pain men inflict on women, but somehow fails to understand the pain women often inflict on men.
Forgiving Infidelity and Cheating - Can We Really Forget?
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 9th 2008
- Advice
- Unrated
Contrary to popular opinion, men are not always the blame when it comes to infidelity in a relationship. Cheating tendencies are not gender related. To the men that have accused me of being an angry woman, a male basher, or a woman with issues, this article addresses this subject equivalently. Cheating and infidelity is a two way street.
No! Stop It Right Now! You Cannot Do That! Why Are Parents So Afraid to Just Say "NO!"
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 8th 2008
- Parenting
- Unrated
Why is it that so many parents are afraid to say the word "no!" to their children? I've observed parents being kicked, punched, talked to with disrespect and whined half to death by their bratty, spoiled monsters. Why can't they tell them to stop screaming, stop acting a fool, and do it now because I said so! Join me as I launch the Let's Bring "NO!" Back Campaign!
Why "Nice Guys" Suck and Women Don't Want You
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 25th 2008
- Advice
- Unrated
In the world of male/female romantic relationships, females do the choosing. Women respond most positively to men that exhibit specific behavioral attitudes and qualities. Nice guys feel that women should choose them. Wrong! Let me tell you why guys perceived to be "too nice" get passed over for exciting guys with a bad boy edge
Be The Man Your Woman Needs to Dump Proof Your Relationship
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 25th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Women today are definitely strong and very independent, but that that mean that we don't need the emotional and physical support of our men? If you're a guy that believes a modern woman doesn't need you in any way, and you use that as an excuse to avoid giving of yourself, you're treading on dangerous ground. And you'll be dumped soon...
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire! Dating, Lies and Deception Are Often a Package Deal
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 24th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Misrepresentations, omissions, and out and out lies are unfortunately a realistic component of the modern dating scene. Here are a few tips to help guide you through the challenges of dating!
First Date Disasters and Why You Didn't Get a Second Date
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 20th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
It's common to hear single men and women say they are tired of dating. They've gone out a few times and run into some serious knuckleheads; folks with no manners, that say stupid things, do stupid things, or with whom there is just no chemistry. If you have a hard time getting a second date, take a moment to examine your behavior and make sure you aren't making these dating blunders!
Parental Relationship Soured Over Interracial Romance
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 18th 2008
- Teenagers
- Unrated
Interracial relationships, though quite commonplace, are still confusing to many parents, and downright frowned upon by others. Does love really come painted in a specific color? The issue is examined in this parent/teen conflict.
The Real Purpose of A Relationship
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Monday 26th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
I don't know about you, but I am tired of reading articles and discussion forum posts involving gender blaming, race blaming, and society blaming and why we can't have successful relationships. Why don't we collectively as human beings take accountability for our ills?
Everything Old is New Again: 21st-Century Dating Rules for Men
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Sunday 18th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
No matter what your reason for wanting to get back into the dating scene, you need to go into battle armed with knowledge about how things are done these days. Avoid being put into "the friend zone" with these dating tips.
African American Authors: Promote and Sell Your Self-Published Black Book
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Saturday 17th 2008
- Minority
- Unrated
Self publishing is great! There is no middle-man between you and the cover designer, editor and layout people, you get to market sooner, have complete control, and keep all the profits. But you also shoulder the up front expense and responsibility for publishing and marketing your book. There are things you should do make your journey to published author an exciting and rewarding one!
One-Sided Love - When You Love Someone That Can't or Won't Love You Back
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 13th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Lots of singles fall in with the expectation that their beloved is going to love them back...somehow, some way, someday. When it doesn't happen they vow to love even harder, and ultimately in more pain. So you don't waste your time, let's explore why some people are afraid to fall in love.
That Dreaded "C" Word - Men and Commitment
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Thursday 8th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Are there really specific things a woman should be looking for or examining early on in a relationship so that she can wisely determine if a guy is a committer or a non-committer? My answer to you ladies is "YES, there are!" You gotta know what the signs are and what it means if your honey is stalling on taking that next step to a commitment. Let's discuss them.
Infidelity and Cheating: How You Can Tell If Your Man is Cheating on You!
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 7th 2008
- Divorce
- Unrated
I often receive letters from heartbroken women, sick with worry that their boyfriends or husbands are cheating on them. The cheating itself seems to hurt them deeply, as it indicates a violation of the marital vows the wife holds dear, but I think its the lying which accompanies the cheating that is the most destructive element in the whole horrible situation.
Unconditional Love - A Realistic Relationship Goal or a Romantic Fantasy?
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 6th 2008
- Advice
- Unrated
Unconditional love... does it exist in adult romantic relationships or not? Does it make sense to expect to be given unconditional love in the context of a dating relationship or marriage? The author shares her perspective on the concept of unconditional love and whether seeking it is unrealistic folly or a love we should all strive to give.
Are You Wasting Your Time Loving "Suckas?"
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 25th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Sadly, many singles confuse the lies and manipulative games of a sucka with a real, solid loving relationship. Blinded by romance, passion and dreams of happily ever after, many men and women open their hearts, minds, homes and wallets to suckas. Advice columnist Deborrah Cooper provides tips to help you recognize a sucka before you get hurt!
The Phenomenon of Internet Dating
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 15th 2008
- Online
- Unrated
The door on Internet dating is wide open for deception and emotional distance. How easy it is to deceive someone about ourselves when we are safely tucked away hundreds or even thousands of miles away. It's easy to hide our true selves behind the computer terminal and project ourselves to be whatever others want us to be.
Breaking Up and Divorce - Sometimes Love Hurts
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Saturday 29th 2008
- Divorce
- Unrated
What do you do when you lose someone you really loved? How do you handle the feeling of emptiness and sooth your aching heart? Love is a wonderful feeling, but why is it that when love leaves, it hurts so much that you can't even cry?
The ABC's of Dating - 10 Tips for Getting the Ball Rolling in Romance!
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 28th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
This article answers 10 frequently asked dating questions: What should I be looking for? What does dating mean really? I'm very shy and don't know what to talk about on a date! Are men always obligated to pay? How long should the date last...I don't want to wear out my welcome! How can I know if this is someone I should see again or leave alone?
Why Women Ruin Relationships By Talking Too Much
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 28th 2008
- Advice
- Unrated
Women can't stand empty silences and will often fill the quiet with tidbits of information about their past, laying them out like an offering to the Gods. Why clog a man's brain with information that will do nothing but make him jealous, cause him to question your past, or make him feel insecure about a future with you? Really, it would be best if women learned to shut up sometimes!
How Women Ruin Relationships By Talking Too Much!
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Wednesday 26th 2008
- Relationships
- Unrated
Women can't stand empty silences and will often fill the quiet with tidbits of information about their past, laying them out like an offering to the Gods Why clog a man's brain with information that will do nothing but make him jealous, cause him to question your past, or make him feel insecure about a future with you
The Importance Of Accepting Others For Who And What They Are
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 25th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Women often enter into relationships thinking "hmm, he has this wrong and I wish that was different… but I can change him, then he'll be perfect" Men enter into relationships hoping the woman they fell in love with NEVER changes
The 7 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Dating, Love & Commitment
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Monday 10th 2008
- Relationships
- Unrated
Faced with yet another Saturday night alone, single women everywhere wonder what they are doing wrong Just why is it that so many beautiful, accomplished women are without the loving partners they seek
What Makes a Male a Man? A Woman Shares Her Thoughts
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Sunday 9th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
As females mature our concept of what a man is changes. Though Daddy is often our first glimpse at manhood, our desires and expectations change and grow with us. We come to recognize that manhood does not simply mean a male is a man - it simply means that he has passed puberty.
Making a Successful Singles Connection
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Friday 7th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
When it's time to choose a mate, too many of us make the wrong choices and time after time our relationships crash and burn, and end in heartbreak. Here are tips to prevent that from happening to you!
Do You Recognize The 7 Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Relationship?
- By Deborrah Cooper
- Published Tuesday 4th 2008
- Dating
- Unrated
Do you notice that you repeatedly involve yourself with the same "type" of person over and over again? If so, the reason is most likely because you are either ignoring early warning signs that this situation is unhealthy and dangerous, or you don't know what to look for. The earlier you notice signs of incompatibility such as these, the easier it will be for you to avoid getting hurt emotionally.
